Monday, March 22, 2010

The Visit - Part 5

It’s the senior’s worship day today (Saturday). I met and greeted a lot of elderly people in church, where everybody knew mom. An elderly gentleman came to chat next to us, who were sitting down. All of a sudden, and to my utter horror, mom reached out and slipped half of her hand into the gentleman’s pant zipper saying, “Hey, you forgot to zip up!” I slapped her hand without thinking and at the same time yelled, “Don’t touch that!”

For a second our roles completely reversed. Not that I ever did what she did when I was a kid.

The gentleman laughed and said not to worry, that he and mom had known each other for a long time. Then he zipped up in front of us. I thought to myself yeah, I’m sure you’ll be happy if anyone wants to touch your “you know what.“ For some reason his hand on mom’s shoulder, while moving and rubbing it, irritated me immensely.

I thought about it some more and I think I know why.

Chinese do not touch. The older ones, that is. Mom barely hugged me when she first saw me in two years. Actually, it was more like she endured my hug to her. He was an old man, so he should know better than that. This was borderline molestation!

Mom made arrangement to meet with a realtor friend at a McDonald after church. I showed my stubborn side by refusing to eat there. We got into our separate cars and went to a different place to eat. I’ll have the word “idiot” tattooed on my forehead before I put any junk food in my body when I’m in a town with fine Chinese cuisine everywhere. Did I mention mom was stubborn, too?

The realtor friend answered some questions we had about mom’s property. I think we need to meet a lawyer on Monday. He will arrange that. Friendship here is often hinged on mutual business interests. He had sold a townhouse to mom during her relocation fever. It’s kind of like the clownfish and the sea anemone.

Highlight of the day: mom commented on how her sixty-eight-year old friend looked younger than me. She must be a very special friend.

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  1. Ok, so I'm only commenting on this one post, although I read the preceeding four!:P

    It's a different style from the last piece I read from you (the one about the douchebag doctor) and I loved it.

    It's a lot more literary. Is it your story? Each time you write one, it all seems so real that I keep asking myself that question..or 'If it really happened'! That's a great thing, because it's entirely believable.

    Is there going to be a part 6? this doesn't seem over!! please!

  2. hi sarah, i'm visiting my mom right now and thought i would document her condition and my feelings throughout the process. so yes, this is really happening.

  3. Oh my heavens, I had to laugh about the zipper. My dad was so freaking inappropriate ALL THE TIME! I felt like I was his mother.

    And the mean things your mom says to you....I got that too. Hang in there, dear Sarah.



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