Tuesday, March 23, 2010

The Visit - Part 6

We looked high and low for the house purchase contract and title for the lawyer’s appointment later today. She had a copy in the envelop marked “House purchase papers” but she thought that was the wrong one, so we looked for an hour. Then we were told that that was the paper we needed.

I found a prayer notebook on the bookshelf. Out of curiosity I flipped through it. She wrote down her morning and evening prayers on it. They were for her favorite political party, her health, her temperament, her friends. But among her three children, only my half brother’s name appeared frequently. I didn’t see my name or my sister’s.

I asked her why. She played her senile card and pretended she didn’t know what I was talking about.

I was hurt for an hour or so, then I went into her room where she started writing down things I should do after she passes. I wrote on a piece of paper: “Don’t worry, mom. I will try my best to find my brother and give him whatever you want to give him after you‘re gone. If necessary I will go back to Taiwan to do this. Your daughter.”

She obviously worries a lot about him but doesn’t want to admit it. I figure that’s the least I could do to calm her mind. I’d like to think she still remembers me in her prayers. She just didn’t write it down.

Today is the first day of meal delivery. She called to ask where the food was around 12 o’clock. I told her the window was between 11:00 to 1:00, but she never had any patience and still doesn’t. I was still cooking some spinach when she wolfed down her meal, and asked me to change the delivery to three times a week.

We went and got the doctor to sign the form so she could apply for discount transportation. We also visited the lawyer referred by her friend and the papers will be ready on Wednesday. Another fruitful day.


  1. Wow! You've got your hands full. I just read parts 1-6.

    Keep your chin up!

  2. uber - thanks. i'm getting used to the situation and am doing my best.

  3. Wow Sarah...what can I say? To handle an aged parent also when you do feel appreciation is an act of unconditional love


  4. I think you have the patience of a saint - what you are doing is remarkable x

  5. I think you have the patience of a saint - what you are doing is remarkable x

  6. lorenza, kitty - i wish i could take the credit and your kind words. truth is i still feel angry from time to time and have to remind myself she's a very ill person. i take it as the chance for me to be a better person. she did what she could and she's not perfect. just like me.

  7. God bless you, Sarah. This time with your mother will mean so much later on. I know this to be true. Even the rough, tough parts will make sense later.

  8. it is so hard to find the humor in our parents aging miserably.
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